As a writer for the adult playground website, Juliland.com, I get many emails asking about roleplay and the importance of incorporating fantasy within relationships. A few months ago, I wrote a couple articles in response to these questions titled What's Your Fantasy? and Dress Me Up, Dress Me Down - both of which offer thoughts on changing one's physical appearance to alter a sexual scenario, as well as tips to incorporate in the bedroom. Nevertheless, I am so curious to see what the Cal Exotics community thinks about roleplay! What do you think makes a successful act of roleplay? Have you ever dressed up for a partner? Do you think fantasy is harmful or healthy in a relationship? Tell me your thoughts, I would love to hear them all.
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Role playing is such a fun way to experiment with your partner. You can bring in toys as well to help with the role play. I think it is something couples should try at least once to see if they like it!
I think role playing is healthy in a relationship. As long as everyone involved is comfortable and safe!
that is so cool...
I agree completely...
I think role play can be a fun / exciting and informative addition to relationships. But, not everyone wants to or knows how to role play. But, using role play games could help make role play much easier.
There can always be a bit of silly to role play and of course sex is supposed to be fun. So, giggling is a good thing. Role play can help someones confidence but could also hurt it. Therefore, I think that discussion about it is an important start in bringing role play into your relationship.
We completely agree with you Stormy! Communication is key!
I have never role played in my relationship but I totally agree with you about the giggling. My husband is the first person that I have been with in my 37 years that I felt comfortable laughing with during sex. AND it didn't turn him off, in fact that was an amazing experience to for both of us.
I think role play is an essential to keeping the fire burning in a relationship. it also helps to release inhibitions and allows for open communication between the two. I think it is healthy when enjoyed and agreed by both.
Well said, La Trice! I agree that it is very healthy to keep communication open and explore fantasy together. If you want to keep a relationship exciting, you must introduce new experiences and this can definitely be achieved with fantasy and role play!
Some people are a little fearful of opening their relationship up to fantasy and role play because they feel guilty about their fantasies or they worry that they will be judged by their partner. That's why communication is so important.
I have that fear. Hence why I just write my fantasies out into stories. I can explore them safely with my toys, in the comfort zone of my bed and mind.
Thanks for sharing! Many people have a hard time acknowledging fantasies that they wouldn't want to share with a partner or bring to their relationship. Writing is a great outlet for exploring fantasies in a safe way!